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Aapje

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Hey guys,

Some of you may have noticed and most that follow the FB page have noticed too that i've been away a while. For those who i had pending offers, i am very sorry!

I've just had a rough time...It just looks like I'm caught in kind of a $h!t storm lately...

So i think its time for a rant of explenation


It all began about 7 or 8 months ago, when me and my girlfriend broke up after a one and a half year relationship. That kinda broke me at the moment.

The next thing that happend was my education. I was studing to become a graphic designer, but the gouverment decided they had wasted enough years trying to let me graduate, so they stopped my funding. When you're studing in Holland, the gouverment funds your transportation(By bus or train, called OV) and give you some money to buy books and let you pay for school. I only had two years to go and they stopped my OV, which would cost me about 50 euro's a week for two years and the money to buy books etc, would stop next year, so that'll cost me about 1500 euro's for the year. I'm from a low income familie, so i had to stop school for that reason. I could kinda handle that

Than my dad died...Those of you who are on the FB page of the multiverse, saw and supported me during the event. Thank all of you for that, it helped me a lot that my 'verse friends supported me. I couldnt go to the multiverse during that time, cause we don't have internet at my dad's. So i had to rely on wifi and FB on my too slow phone. These where the updates from the FB page:

Hey guys, I haven't been active on the 'verse a while, cause something went wrong with my dad's heart. He had a sort of heart attack(I don't know how to translate it) I don't have internet in my dad's house where i've been living for a while now. I hope some of you where i've got pm and trades going on with will somehow get this news, cause i won't be coming online this month

Sorry, my friends!

Thanks guys, he's out of the hospital now and he's kinda fine now, but within the month he needs a bypass
I don't really like the idea of a 80 year old man getting open heart surgery...

Hey guys, thanks a lot for everything!
Here's the latest update:
His heart has decreased in health...Two of the three major artories in his heart are clogged and the third is getting thighter and thighter. The chances of him surviving the bypass are 20% and that's not the only thing...They scanned him for the reneval for his drivers licence and they found something on his liver...a cancer of 10cm and it's not one he can live with. Today the docters confirmed that he couldnt be helped and they're giving up on him. They said that in this condition he just can't survive ANY surgery. His liver can last months, while his heart can stop beating any minute now, which is the biggest problem... It's gonna be a hard time and i hope he gets trough it peacefully...

Thanks for the best wishes guys, but it didn't go so well
Sunday the 28th my dad sufferd a cardiac arrest at half past 9. My sister performed CPR and he was transported to the hospital. He layed there the whole night. When i got there at half past 10, it didn't look good. He was weak and he could't talk very well. Later that night he seemed to get better and almost like he was before that. Around 3 o clock, i sat in his room and had a conversation with him for an half hour about everything and the plans he had for when he got out of the hospital. I thought he was okay, so i went home to get some sleep. My sister was there all night. The next morning my sister and her husband wanted to go out for a smoke, but somehow my sister wanted to go back to say goodbye. He complained about his heart and than in 3 minutes he passed away painlessly. He was 80 years old. Last monday we buried him. It was a beautifull service, i spoke at the service about him. As everybody will, i will miss him, rest in peace, dad...

Around this time I met a girl, who supported me in this time of need and i grew to love her. But lately I've became kinda hard to deal with, with everything and all. So last saturday after 5 months, my girlfriend suddenly told me that she was tired with me and my futureless excistence at the moment(I can't seem to find a job), because I'm taking her down with me in my downward spiral of negativity so she broke up with me, until i get my life under control...

Yep, I kinda feel screwed up now and trying to cope with everyting. But I'm back again, though

Still got my head above the water though!

PS:
On a positiver note there's been a lot of birthdays and new guys around here and normally I congradulate and welcome everybody, so Happy Birthday to most of you and Welcome to others! :)

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I hope the 'verse in an oasis of peace in this trying time you're going through. So sorry to hear about your dad. There's just no preparing for that.

While you're here, sit back, kick your feet up, and escape for a little while. I keep hearing about an avalanche of Minimates that's about to hit so there should be plenty of pictures to distract you for a bit while you sort things out. :)

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Aapje,

You will never know how strong you are until you are forced to become strong.

I am truly sorry for your losses. I understand where you're coming from. Breaking up and having someone you love pass away are two of the most painful things a man can experience. I am amazed and extremely proud that you are still standing tall. I admire and envy your fortitude. The real strength of a man is measured in times of challenges and controversies, not in times of comfort.

I do hope you get back up on your feet and little by little, day by day, you are able to smile again. I guarantee you, you will be whole again.

PM me if you want to chat some more.

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Thanks a lot, guys!

This place has always been a place of comfort and peace!

You all are always so supporting and I'm glad i have this place and you guys

I knew that some day it just had to happen with my dad, but this was all just so sudden

Oh, well, i guess you can only climb up stronger, after falling on your ass to the bottom of the well.

I hope things could only get better from now on

A few days ago, i've had more bad luck...I wasnt paying attention and almost broke my ankle because one of the highest doors of my clothing closet fell off and landed on my ankle...So it banged up my ankle pretty good, but ill be up and running in hopefully two to three weeks...Its just my luck, i guess dry.png

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Well..look on the bright side..it could have fallen off an cut off your foot.

I hear those guys on the amputee message board are nowhere near as supportive as we are...most people say there's just something missing.

But, keep your spirits high, and always know there are people here if you ever need to talk.

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